Saturday, March 10, 2012

Parenting Children 6-8 Post-Divorce

A divorce is extremely challenging, especially for children aged 6-8 years old. Parents can do a lot to ease their children through the process. For the best divorce advice for your individual situation, contact experienced an experience divorce attorney.

Parents must allow the children to love both parents without guilt or embarrassment,  should not force children to choose between the parents and should not tell the children about the other parent’s wrongdoings. Instead, parents must put their own egos and hurt feelings aside and give the children the freedom to spend time with and connect emotionally with both parents.

Around the ages of 6-8, a child is learning expertise in the world. To deal with the divorce, children may begin telling each parent what the child believes the parent wants to hear, rather than expressing their own true feelings. They may become the parents’ protectors, acting too good in order to avoid any conflict.

Children going through a divorce may become distracted and emotionally distant or develop behavior problems at school. They may pretend they are sick in order to avoid school because they feel helpless about the family’s problems. Be sure to alert the school personnel about the divorce.
Children at this age will feel significantly depressed about the divorce and grieve when a parent moves out, even if they were not particularly connected to that parent. Children often fantasize that their parents will get back together.

When developing a parenting plan, keep in mind that children this age are in a period of growth and self-discovery, choosing their own friends and learning to separate from their parents. Children can generally stay with each parent for four to five days at a time, depending on the child’s maturity and separation abilities. However, both parents should remain involved with school and after-school activities, even if the children are staying with the other parent. The children’s routines should be as consistent as possible at both parents’ homes.

Substantial conflict between the parents or destructive behavior by the children may require the help of a therapist or mediator.  If you should notice signs of depression or anxiety in the children-to an extent that it begins affecting their day-to-day life, contact a specialist right away.  If possible, both parents should participate in the counseling.

I am experienced in dealing with these type of issues and can assist you in seeking the Court's relief if your spouse is acting in a way that would harm the children. If should you need assistance with a dissolution of marriage or other family law issue, please contact the office for a free initial consultation.

Brad G. Fisher, Esq.
214 E. Church Street
Pensacola, Florida 32502
Telephone 850.470.0100
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1 comment:

  1. This is really true that children that is going through a divorce may become distracted and emotionally distant or develop behavior problems at school.

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