In many divorces, the couples’ children end up the real victims. The courts tend to treat them as just another item in the long list of assets that need to be divvied up during the divorce proceedings, and as a result the children often have their needs neglected.
This is a sad state of affairs; our children are the single most valuable part of our lives, and it is truly unfortunate how little time and resources the divorce procedure affords to their well-being.
However, there are a number of ways that conscientious parents can shield their children from lasting harm, even amidst the chaos of a divorce. For example it is extremely important for the parents to remember that the children are not party to divorce.
Indeed, parents should never involve children in their divorce. No matter how stressed and upset they get because of their divorce, parents should never use their children as confidants. This changes the relationship between parent and child in a way that can severely confuse the child. Some parents are even tempted to use their children as spies or as pawns in their conflict with the other parent. This can be incredibly damaging, as it places the child in a position where he is pressured to betray one of his parents. Parents should never try to gain favoritism over the other parent by speaking negatively of the other parent, or by purchasing excessive gifts or giving extra rewards. This may work in the short term, but in the end both parents and the children will be hurt- and as adults the children can become bitter and resentful upon realizing that their relationship with a parent was intentionally strained by their other parent.
Experienced Pensacola divorce attorney Brad Fisher is mindful of these dangers and the many others that can crop up during a divorce. If should you need assistance with a dissolution of marriage or other family law issue, please contact the office for a free initial consultation.
Brad G. Fisher, Esq.
214 E. Church Street
Pensacola, Florida 32502